The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks Pdf
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Unfortunately, good success is frequently accompanied by bad feelings that overwhelm us and lead to detrimental habits. “I don’t deserve this,” “this is too good to be true,” and a variety of other negative thought patterns keep us from feeling the joy and fulfillment we deserve. Sounds familiar, right? The Upper Limit Problem, as described by New York Times best-selling author Gay Hendricks, is a negative emotional reaction that occurs when anything positive enters our lives. The Upper Limit Problem not only keeps us from being happy, but it also keeps us from reaching our objectives. It’s the greatest life stumbling block.
Hendricks presents a simple yet comprehensive approach for overcoming this barrier to happiness and fulfillment in The Big Leap, and he does so in a way that stimulates both the head and the heart. The book outlines the four underlying anxieties that are at the basis of the Upper Limit Problem after working closely with more than 1,000 remarkable performers in business and the arts, from rock stars to Fortune 500 executives, whose tales are recounted in these pages.
The Big Leap teaches us how to determine which of these four anxieties is preventing us from reaching our personal upper limit, and then how to overcome that barrier to reach what Hendricks calls our Zone of Genius. Hendricks lays out a clear road to realizing our full potential and achieving not only money but also love and life success.
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Summary of The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks Pdf
Lesson 1: Because we don’t believe we deserve it all, we artificially limit our enjoyment.
Engineers figured out how to use steam engines to power wheels in the early nineteenth century, and the steam locomotive was born. People rapidly realized it could be used for more than just transporting products and commodities, and it quickly became a popular mode of transportation. However, because of the state of science at the time, early adopters advised that trains should never travel faster than 30 mph since the human bodies on board would explode.
You read that correctly. People truly believed that going faster than 30 mph would cause their bodies to burst. Fortunately, some “crazy” opted to go 31 anyhow, and now we’re driving automobiles that reach speeds of almost 280 mph. What is the takeaway here? The amount we try typically determines how much is possible.
The story of Roger Bannister breaking the four-minute mile is similar. Before he performed it, it was thought to be physically impossible, but once he accomplished it, others rapidly followed. In the same spirit, what we consider “normal” has no bearing on how often we are happy or how long that enjoyment lasts.
Jonathan Haidt demonstrated in his book The Happiness Hypothesis that we all have a biological happiness set point beyond which we tend to regress, but that we may raise that baseline. Consider how much of your dissatisfaction stems from your assumption that it “needs to be there.”
Lesson 2: Fear and self-sabotage are two prevalent upper limits.
So, why did I squander my friendship with those who wished to help me advance? I thwarted myself. That’s it. We tend to ruin ourselves for no apparent reason if things start going too well for us because we have this subliminal sense of how much happiness we deserve. We manufacture artificial drama and unnecessary difficulties as a result of this upper limit thinking, according to Hendricks.
If you’re doing well financially, we often do this in another aspect of life, such as love. However, rather than making an unintentional error, this is frequently an indication of you letting your guard down and then making a careless mistake. If you’re having a good run, just remember to keep your ego in check. You’ll be alright if you don’t get cocky.
Fear is another common upper limit. Our deepest fear, according to Marianne Williamson’s famous remark, is “that we are powerful beyond measure,” not failure. It’s logical. You have no excuse not to live up to your potential if you know and accept that you have all you need.
Because you can’t totally eliminate fear, Hendricks recommends “breathing into it,” paraphrasing German psychologist Fritz Perls, who observed that “fear is enthusiasm without the breath.” When we’re worried, our breath usually grows shorter. You can regain control of your breathing by inhaling slowly and deeply. This will help you turn stress into energy and create a superb presentation, for example, if you’re preparing to give a presentation.
Lesson 3: There are four work zones, and we should seek to be in the Zone of Genius.
Hendricks claims that job shouldn’t feel like work if you want to be happy for the rest of your life. You want a few hours to pass quickly so you may emerge inspired and ready to continue where you left off the next day. To do so, you must work in what Hendricks refers to as your Zone of Genius. It’s one of four different work stages
- Incompetence Zone. You’re terrible at it. Many individuals are better at it than you.
- Zone of Expertise You’re fine, but many others have it easier.
- Zone of Expertise Few people can compete with your level of expertise.
- The Genius Zone You’re the finest at it in the entire planet.
About the Author
Gay Hendricks has been a key contributor to the disciplines of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies for over forty years. Dr. Hendricks has mentored over 800 CEOs throughout the course of his career, including top executives from Dell, Hewlett-Packard, Motorola, and KLM. He has coauthored many books with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, including Conscious Loving, The Corporate Mystic, and his most recent, the New York Times bestseller Five Wishes, which has been translated into seventeen languages. Stanford University awarded Dr. Hendricks a Ph.D. in counseling psychology.
He started the Hendricks Institute after a twenty-one-year career as a professor at the University of Colorado, which conducts seminars in North America, Asia, and Europe. He founded The Spiritual Cinema Circle as well. His recent obsession has been writing a new series of mystery novels about Tenzing Norbu, a Tibetan Buddhist private detective. The First Rule Of Ten was Ten’s first adventure, followed by The Second Rule Of Ten and more.