Games People Play by Eric Berne
Download Games People Play by Eric Berne pdf book free online – From Games People Play by Eric Berne: Over forty years ago, Games People Play revolutionized our understanding of what really goes on during our most basic social interactions. More than five million copies later, Dr. Eric Berne’s classic is as astonishing and revealing as it was on the day it was first published.
We play games all the time—sexual games, marital games, power games with our bosses, and competitive games with our friends. Detailing status contests like “Martini” (I know a better way), to lethal couples combat like “If It Weren’t For You” and “Uproar,” to flirtation favorites like “The Stocking Game” and “Let’s You and Him Fight,” Dr. Berne exposes the secret ploys and unconscious maneuvers that rule our intimate lives.
Explosive when it first appeared, Games People Play is now widely recognized as the most original and influential popular psychology book of our time. It’s as powerful and eye-opening as ever.
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About the Author
Eric Berne (1910-1970) was a Canadian-born psychiatrist best known as the creator of transactional analysis and the author of the bestselling book Games People Play.
David Colacci has been an actor and a director for over thirty years, and has worked as a narrator for over fifteen years. He has won AudioFile Earphones Awards, earned Audie nominations, and been included in Best of the Year lists by such publications as Publishers Weekly, AudioFile magazine, and Library Journal. –Este texto se refiere a la edición mp3_cd.
From the Inside Flap
Dr. Eric Berne, as the originator of transactional analysis, has attained recognition for developing one of the most innovative approaches to modern psychotherapy. Discover how many of these “secret games” you play everyday of your life: Iwfy (If it weren’t for you); Sweetheart; Threadbare; Harried; Alcoholic, and many more. A groundbreaking book that bores deep into the heart of all our relationships, GAMES PEOPLE PLAY is a classic that should be read again and again.
Review of Games People Play by Eric Berne
This “bible” of transactional analysis can be incredibly helpful to those who are dealing with people who play damaging games all day every day. It’s slightly outdated, and some of the things it calls “games” we now call “illness”, but it still is overwhelmingly useful (even revolutionary) for those who want to take control of their life and personal interactions.
It describes abusive games people play like “Let’s pull a fast one on Jimmy” or “Broken leg” and tells you exactly how to end your role in them. If you have to deal with people who always make excuses, can’t be trusted, constantly criticize you, etc, this is the book to read.
The only thing you need to be aware of, and it’s important, is that ending “games”, or even just your role in games others keep trying to make you play, can destroy relationships in the short term (and sometimes in the long term). If you have someone really toxic in your life who plays very destructive games, they will be FURIOUS and THREATENED when you terminate your part in the game. For them, playing the game may seem like a matter of life and death . . .
In that instance, you need to be working with a therapist who specializes in using transactional analysis as part of therapy. In fact, that’s pretty much always good advice if you want to make big changes in your family, personal, and professional relationships. You can google for therapists that use TA as a method and its worth doing.
At any rate, this is a powerful book. I hope you enjoy reading it.
Games People play: the psychology of human relationships, 1966, Eric Berne, Esmail Fassih (translator)
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships is a bestselling 1964 book by psychiatrist Eric Berne. In the first half of the book, Berne introduces transactional analysis as a way of interpreting social interactions. He describes three roles or ego states, known as the Parent, the Adult, and the Child, and postulates that many negative behaviors can be traced to switching or confusion of these roles. He discusses procedures, rituals, and pastimes in social behavior, in light of this method of analysis. For example, a boss who talks to his staff as a controlling ‘parent’ will often engender self-abased obedience, tantrums, or other childlike responses from his employees. The second half of the book catalogs a series of “mind games” in which people interact through a patterned and predictable series of “transactions” which are superficially plausible (that is, they may appear normal to bystanders or even to the people involved), but which actually conceal motivations, include private significance to the parties involved, and lead to a well-defined predictable outcome, usually counterproductive. The book uses casual, often humorous phrases such as “See What You Made Me Do,” “Why Don’t You — Yes But,” and “Ain’t It Awful” as a way of briefly describing each game. In reality, the “winner” of a mind game is the person that returns to the Adult ego-state first.
Review of Games People Play by Eric Berne
In this book, Berne argues that a lot of the behaviour you see around you every day can best be understood as different kinds of “games”. A game is a pattern of behaviour usually involving two or perhaps three people. There is a series of interactions, followed by an emotional payoff.
One of the things I found most interesting is that the classification has two dimensions. First, there’s the game itself. Second, there’s the question of how seriously you’re playing: he divides this into First Degree, Second Degree and Third Degree. First Degree is just playing for fun. Second Degree means people’s feelings can be badly hurt. Third Degree means that the game ends up “in the courts, the hospital or the morgue.”
So let me give you an example. There’s this game he calls RAPO (one of the most appealing aspects of the book is the witty labels he’s made up for the different games). First Degree RAPO is a game you can see being played at almost any party. The first person, most often a woman, flirts with the second person, most often a man, until he expresses some concrete sexual interest. Then she frowns and moves on, leaving him feeling like a bit of a jerk. Her payoff is satisfaction that she’s managed to discomfit him and reassurance that she has sexual power, but it’s basically harmless.
In Second Degree RAPO, the first party leads the second party on until, again, he’s made some kind of advances. Then she gets openly indignant. Maybe she tells him loudly to keep his hands off her, or she phones her friends and says that he’s such a lecherous creep. Second Degree RAPO is a pretty nasty game, because it is of course impossible for third parties to know whether the accusations are true or not. Maybe the guy is just a lecherous creep.
In Third Degree RAPO, the first party may get as far as having consensual sex with the second party. She then calls the police and formally accuses him of rape. Third Degree RAPO is, fortunately, not that common. It’s clear that it can easily destroy people’s lives.
I thought it was insightful to point out that all of these are essentially the same thing: the difference is quantitative, not qualitative. I don’t buy his analysis completely. But if he doesn’t succeed in alerting you to a least a couple of games you’re playing without realising it, then I really envy your ability to understand yourself and the things that motivate you.