LEARN WHAT THE MOST EFFECTIVE PEOPLE DO DIFFERENTLY
Everyone Communicates Few Connect – World-renowned leadership expert and bestselling author John C. Maxwell says if you want to be an effective leader, you must learn how to connect with people.
While it may seem like some folks are just born with a commanding presence that draws people in, the fact is anyone can learn to communicate in ways that consistently build powerful connections.
Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, helps you succeed by revealing Maxwell’s Five Principles and Five Practices to develop this crucial skill of connecting, including: finding common ground, keeping your communication simple, capturing people’s interest, inspiring people, and staying authentic in all your relationships.
Your ability to achieve results in any organization–be it a company, church, nonprofit, or even in your family–is directly tied to the leadership skills in your toolbox. Connecting is an easy-to-learn skill you can apply today in your personal, professional, and family relationships to start living your best life.
3 Things I Learned from Everyone Communicates Few Connect by John Maxwell
1. Connecting Means Focusing On Others
When effective people lead, speak or teach, they see themselves as guides helping others learn.Sometimes when communicating we are concerned with our own self-image and what people will think of us. Out of neediness we seek praise. Out of insecurity we seek validation and approval. Our ego wants to see us lifted up.
In some cases, we may communicate out of a sense of responsibility just to be seen as faithful.The audience is much more concerned with knowing what you can do for them and whether you care about them. This means communicating with love, grave, gratitude, compassion, and seeing your ability to teach as a gift.
2. Information Is Not Enough
Connection is conviction, passion, and credibility. Do you believe in the message you’re delivering, and is it something that adds value to others?
Many people think they can just give information or logical line of reasoning and it will persuade an audience.
This doesn’t work because we overestimate how receptive an audience is to a message. You have to connect emotionally to move an audience. That means your energy, intensity, and conviction
3. Find Common Ground
Your communication is more effective when you can operate in the same framework as your audience. This is easier said than done. Miscommunication happens because we assume we already know what other know, feel, and want or we think we don’t need to know, or we don’t care to know.“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.” -Nelson Mandela
When we don’t care to find the common ground, it is an act of selfishness that prevents us from being a ‘giver’ in our communication.
Find common ground by being genuinely interested in others and listening to them. It is basic humility in the sense that we have to learn to think of ourselves less, and think of others more
The willingness to see things from others’ point of view is the secret of common ground, and that common ground is the secret to CONNECTING not just communicating.
Dr John Maxwell